sd082597: Light for the Day - "Christian Dating and Sexuality" (Viet) 
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Note: Updated: O3/20/2010

   *** Warning: Some Sexual Terms may not suitable for children ***   

  ++ "Dating" may get involve with "Sexual Temptations." ++   


1. Jesus teaching about mental adultery :

-- Matthew 5:28
"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' (Ex 20:14) But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
(Note: "Looks .. lustfully" - not a passing glance but a willful, calculated stare that arouses sexual desire.)


2. "We should not commit Sexual Immorality" :

-- 1Corinthians 6:18-20
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.


3. Christian Dating:

Good : If it's Not Leaded into sexual immorality.
 Bad : If it's Leaded into sexual immorality.


4. Dating Non-Christians?

Christians Know God's law and have the Holy Spirit's counsel but Non-Christians are not abided by God's law and don't have the Holy Spirit's counsel. So dating Non-Christians may be easier to be fallen into "sexual immorality" and then... into marriage which doesn't please God:
" Do not be mismated with unbelievers"

-- 2 Corinthians 6:14
" Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"

++ May God helps us to know the difference between "Dating non-Christians" and other "Social Engagements" so we don't sin against God and don't have isolated Christian life.

5. Is there a limit to kissing before marriage?
Yes, there is a limit.

People who plan to remain chaste until after marriage must make kissing a means of "communication", not a means of "sexual arousal". When kissing ceases to be "communication" and becomes "sexual foreplay", it has gone too far.


6. Is petting (foreplay) wrong when dating?

Before marriage, petting is wrong. After marriage, not only is petting all right, it's often needed in order for the spouse to reach orgasm during intercourse.

The clinical term for petting is foreplay. This is the process of using the hands, lips, mouth, or tongue to help cause such sexual excitement for both husband and wife that the next step is sexual intercourse, which continues to the point of orgasm.

Now, here is the reason single persons should not engage in petting, heavy necking, or deep kissing. Since these activities are means of foreplay, normal persons of a wide range of ages will become ready for sexual intercourse by doing these things for several minutes. Since the Bible forbids unmarried persons to have intercourse, getting the body ready for it without having it is foolish. You may not be able to stop in time.

7. PETTING :
Those in love should certainly express their affection for each other. But there is a big difference between being appropriately affectionate, and sexually arousing one another. If a couple is honest and willing, they will be able to learn how to demonstrate their affection for each other, without crossing the line into sexual stimulation.

Some may feel that the intense pleasure and release offered by petting is OK, as long as it stops short of intercourse. But sexual passion is powerful, and the more one feeds the flames of passion, the more it demands. Those who play with fire will eventually get burned. Petting is foreplay, designed by God to prepare the body for intercourse. Those who tease their bodies in this way, without intending to go "all the way," are on borrowed time. Sooner or later the deep-seated urges of the body will win out, and afterwards one is left surprised, confused, and feeling guilty.

Most conscientious Christians involved in a serious relationship don't start out planning, or expecting, to engage in sexual intercourse. But if they give themselves to passionate kissing or fondling, their petting becomes heavier and heavier, powerful passions cloud their reason, and they end up going all the way.

Each couple is unique and must learn what places and situations are morally dangerous for them. If they sincerely desire to develop a chaste, Christian relationship, they will avoid situations where they know, from experience, they are likely to be weak. It is not enough to put oneself into, what is for you, an "occasion of sin," and pray to be stronger this time. It's probably too late. One must muster all one's God-given strength to resist placing oneself into a situation where one knows he or she is likely to fall. That is where the battle must be fought.

8. Watch out for the trap of the Devil

-- James 1:13-15
13 When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone; 14 but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

-- James 4:7-8
7 So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.

-- 1 Corinhto 10:12-13
12 So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! 13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

-- 1 Peter 5:7-11
7 Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. 8 Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.

10 And the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will Himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. 11 To Him be the power for ever and ever. Amen.


9. God Delivers Us To "Freedom" From Today World :
Living as we are in a world in which nudity, partial nudity and Sexually Stimulating Dress Style is rampant, the battle for mental purity in the child of God is more intense than ever. Guard what you see in movies and on T.V. and videos, and the Internet. Refuse to buy, look at, or read any sexually stimulating literature.

The freedom you will experience is worth the initial struggle.
"If Jesus Christ will set you free,"
then "you will be free indeed." (John 8).
-- John 8:31-32, 34, 36
31 Jesus said, "If you hold to My teaching, you are really My disciples.
32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
34 Jesus replied, "I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave to sin.
36 So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

-- Galatians 5:1, 13
1 It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. 13 You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love.

-- Roman 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.

-- Romans 13:12-14
12 The night is almost gone; the day of salvation will soon be here. So don’t live in darkness. Get rid of your evil deeds. Shed them like dirty clothes. Clothe yourselves with the armor of right living, as those who live in the light. 13 We should be decent and true in everything we do, so that everyone can approve of our behavior. Don’t participate in wild parties and getting drunk, or in adultery and immoral living, or in fighting and jealousy. 14 But let the Lord Jesus Christ take control of you, and don’t think of ways to indulge your evil desires.

-- Galatians 5:19-26
19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature (the flesh), your lives will produce these evil results: sexual immorality, impure thoughts, eagerness for lustful pleasure, 20 idolatry, participation in demonic activities, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, divisions, the feeling that everyone is wrong except those in your own little group, 21 envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other kinds of sin. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

22 But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, He will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. Here there is no conflict with the law.

24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. 25 If we are living now by the Holy Spirit, let us follow the Holy Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. 26 Let us not become conceited, or irritate one another, or be jealous of one another.


10. "The Power Of Prayer" Will Deliver Us From Sin, Temptation, and Spiritual Warfare:

-- Matthew 26:41 (Mark 14:38)
Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation.
The spirit is willing, but the body is weak.

-- Matthew 6:12-13
12 And forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us.
13 And don't let us yield to temptation, but rescue us from the evil one.

-- 1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

-- James 4:8
Come near to God and He will come near to you.
Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

-- James 5:16
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

-- Psalms 119:9-13; 105
9 How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to Your word.
10 I seek You with all my heart; do not let me stray from Your commands.
11 I have hidden Your word in my heart that I might not sin against You.
+ 105 Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.

-- 1 Thessalonians 5:16-25
16 Be joyful always; 17 Pray continually;
18 Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
19 Do not put out the Spirit's fire; 20 Do not treat prophecies with contempt. 21 Test everything. Hold on to the good. 22 Avoid every kind of evil.
23 May God Himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
24 The One who calls you is faithful and He will do it.
25 Beloved, PRAY for us.

-- 3 John 1:2-3
2 Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. 3 It gave me great joy to have some brothers come and tell about your faithfulness to the truth and how you continue to walk in the truth.